4th Jun 2010 at 3:07 pm
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Mancomb Seepgood, Jun 2010Quote: wombat, May 2010they sit about in circles and speak when god moves them to, is my understanding.
They also used to be massive, murdering b*st*rds.
Those well known pacifists, aka, the religious society of friends?
I don't know what group you're thinking of but it's definitely not Quakers.
I checked and you are absolutely correct, they have not been known to murder, though they did suffer persecution- but that's not what I said or even believed until just now. My mistake, thanks Tom.
4th Jun 2010 at 7:33 pm
Daft Cow?
4th Jun 2010 at 7:40 pm
Quote: LoonyPandora, Jun 2010Emma Watson Story:
I was in a rather cool little jazzy nightclub place, and I'm up on this little balcony thing. As you do with balconies, I was idly watching the world go by, when a dude with a massive leopard on his shoulders walks past. I look the person sat on the little sofa thing I'm stood next to, as she was looking in that general direction, and I ask if she saw what I just saw. She drunkenly replies in the affirmative, and I think to myself "hmm, she looks a bit like Emma Watson".
So we get talking, the sofa she's sat on was facing away from me so she was turned around away from the rest of her group, and I sat on a stool from the next table along. We are chatting and lightly flirting for a good 20 minutes or so, during which time I realise that it is indeed Emma Watson, and that she is extremely drunk. After a while she tells me that she's off for a fag, and I should come. I tell her that I don't smoke. She says to come anyway and just hang out. I again decline her offer. She asks if I'm sure, I say yes, and she tries in vain to chink glasses with me, before saying it was nice meeting me, and then stumbling outside, accompanied by her rather tough looking "friend" never to be seen again by me.
Fin.
And that everyone is a text book self c*ck block
4th Jun 2010 at 8:26 pm
Daft Cow?
5th Jun 2010 at 10:48 am
River Phoenix
Quote: The Underwhelmed One, Jun 2010I guess I belong back in this thread again!
Work guy, after all the mess of things so far, has decided that he 'doesn't need the emotional hassle' of me wanting to see him.
He's getting to grips with some new antidepressants and they've not been great so far. He just seems to be taking a lot of it out on me. He'll call me stupid, easy, talk in really flattering terms about his ex, say anything that'll upset me. He claims that he does it out of panic that I'm getting too close, but then he feels horribly guilty afterwards and is really nice to me, which is just more confusing.
He tells me he doesn't want to see me, but asks me to have lunch with him ever day in work. He tells me that he doesn't want to think of me sexually at all, but will go for a grope whenever he gets the chance. He tells me that he wants me to start seeing someone else, but gets really angry if I'm going out or talking to anyone male. Even if I get a text (which God knows, I can't control for!)
I don't know how much of this is really him though, and how much of it is the Citalopram or the depression itself.
At times he can seem the most amazing person in the world
I just don't know what to do. I want to wait this out but I don't know how long it will take and if I can take it while I do
He's a total mess and I just want to be there for him. At the moment he keeps telling me that he has no feelings for me (or even about anything at all) and that all he wants from me is sex.
He's also told me that if he Does start telling me he cares about me, he'll probably just be trying to get me into bed... so at least he's honest.
I know that selfishly, the easiest thing would be to leave him to deal with this on his own but:
a) I feel like the main reason he broke up with his ex girlfriend and best friend of 5 years, though he says it wasn't just down to me and would have happened anyway.
b) I work with him, everyone in the office knows about our fledgling coupledom and I don't want to be 'that heartless b*tch'
c) I would feel like a heartless b*tch
d) When he's having a good day, he is pretty much perfection
e) I am utterly in lust/totally infatuated/want him badly. Possible even use of the l word (though it's barely been 4 months so I know that could just be the infatuation). It wouldn't be fair to try and substitute in anyone else.
So yeah, half in, half out of the thread.
Why can't I ever fall for someone normal, who likes me the way I am and who doesn't cause this amount of anguish?
Sounds like another w*nker to me dude. Just a depressed one
5th Jun 2010 at 11:15 am
Daft Cow?
5th Jun 2010 at 11:15 pm
Outside-left
Why can't I ever fall for someone normal, who likes me the way I am and who doesn't cause this amount of anguish?
6th Jun 2010 at 8:40 am
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
6th Jun 2010 at 10:31 am
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Quote: Abacus, Jun 2010The whole thing's f*cked. Alice, when you said to me that you don't know how anyone ever gets with anyone I think you were spot on.
I'm not gonna bother arranging second dates with the two girls I went out with last week, even though one patricularly has been hinting. I saw girl at work when I went to meet my mate from work for footy yesterday and I texted her after she went off home to say how nice she looked (compliments between us are so rare) and to see if she wanted to do something on her days off should I lose my job Monday and she said yeah, but we'll see, she'll probably have something on or something when it comes to it.
What you could try is make a definite arrangement to go out.
Instead of leaving it up to her to make a suggestion of when, you say: "Do you want to have lunch with me on x?" then she can't arrange any other event without looking like a flaker. Then, I suppose, you could have a laugh about your dating exploits, gently, to see if it makes her jealous. (Chances are, it will, even if she doesn't show it!) And then maybe she can make a move on deciding whether she wants to be exclusive, or if she wants to leave you in torment some more.
Also, you should probably start looking for a better job. If they treat you like that after 3 years of service, you really do need to go somewhere where you're respected as an employee! (Not that that's easy right now, but hey, ho!)
Good luck!
17th Jun 2010 at 11:37 am
Hope is important.
17th Jun 2010 at 11:39 am
River Phoenix
A girl called Amanda asked me for a date on tuesday. It is really surprising, I think! I was not sure what I should say. I has never happened before, ever! I am not sure howcome would want to ask me.
I said no because I really like someone else, already - it would be really dishonest and unfair, I think. I did not want to be really rude and flippant at-all, and also I did not want to upset her at-all.
She is really pretty and sweet, I think, but I just want to be her friend. Please does it make sense at-all? Am I really horrilbe and unfair?
17th Jun 2010 at 9:03 pm
18th Jun 2010 at 4:14 am
I don't mean to be flippant, but it'd make an interesting change if I had half of the problems some of you lot do. It's been years since anyone even looked at me in that way and I really do mean years.
18th Jun 2010 at 11:32 am
Hope is important.
Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Jun 2010A girl called Amanda asked me for a date on tuesday. It is really surprising, I think! I was not sure what I should say. I has never happened before, ever! I am not sure howcome would want to ask me.
I said no because I really like someone else, already - it would be really dishonest and unfair, I think. I did not want to be really rude and flippant at-all, and also I did not want to upset her at-all.
She is really pretty and sweet, I think, but I just want to be her friend. Please does it make sense at-all? Am I really horrilbe and unfair?
How is progress with Mystery Girl? Does she know?
18th Jun 2010 at 4:35 pm
I aim to misbehave
Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Jun 2010Quote: Ariel, Jun 2010Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Jun 2010A girl called Amanda asked me for a date on tuesday. It is really surprising, I think! I was not sure what I should say. I has never happened before, ever! I am not sure howcome would want to ask me.
I said no because I really like someone else, already - it would be really dishonest and unfair, I think. I did not want to be really rude and flippant at-all, and also I did not want to upset her at-all.
She is really pretty and sweet, I think, but I just want to be her friend. Please does it make sense at-all? Am I really horrilbe and unfair?
How is progress with Mystery Girl? Does she know?
Oh gosh - it is ok, I think. We went to a comedy show in Canterbury with her sister and my friend on sunday - it was really cool and fun. It is really neat to be regular friends and talk about lots of silly things, I think, but I really want to tell her too. I am not sure. I am really worried everything will be really muddled and scatty.
Tell her, now, the longer you leave it, the harder it gets.
18th Jun 2010 at 4:56 pm
I aim to misbehave
Quote: Barrington Smash, Jun 2010Quote: Super Nintendo Chalmers, Jun 2010Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Jun 2010Quote: Ariel, Jun 2010Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Jun 2010A girl called Amanda asked me for a date on tuesday. It is really surprising, I think! I was not sure what I should say. I has never happened before, ever! I am not sure howcome would want to ask me.
I said no because I really like someone else, already - it would be really dishonest and unfair, I think. I did not want to be really rude and flippant at-all, and also I did not want to upset her at-all.
She is really pretty and sweet, I think, but I just want to be her friend. Please does it make sense at-all? Am I really horrilbe and unfair?
How is progress with Mystery Girl? Does she know?
Oh gosh - it is ok, I think. We went to a comedy show in Canterbury with her sister and my friend on sunday - it was really cool and fun. It is really neat to be regular friends and talk about lots of silly things, I think, but I really want to tell her too. I am not sure. I am really worried everything will be really muddled and scatty.
Tell her, now, the longer you leave it, the harder it gets.
Phil is right. Love is like the yolk of a fried egg. Leave it too long and it gets harder. But, get it on time, and it's great for sticking your sausage into
Smash the egg too early and there's goo everywhere and people regretting eating in the morning.
19th Jun 2010 at 9:53 pm
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
20th Jun 2010 at 3:21 am
Outside-left
20th Jun 2010 at 12:36 pm
Daft Cow?
The most useless piece of advice anyone can give is 'be confident'. Confidence isn't something you can switch on and off - it's a chemical reaction brought along by a series of actions and consequences. Make a start on the actions, and the consequences will come.
20th Jun 2010 at 10:45 pm
Outside-left
20th Jun 2010 at 10:46 pm
Daft Cow?
I'll maintain that there's a noticeable difference between genuine confidence and blagged confidence.
20th Jun 2010 at 11:18 pm
I blue myself.
I'll maintain that there's a noticeable difference between genuine confidence and blagged confidence.
20th Jun 2010 at 11:22 pm
Outside-left
20th Jun 2010 at 11:32 pm
I blue myself.
See I don't necessarily agree with 'being yourself' either for the most part. If I'm being myself and it's not doing anything for the situation, I start to look at what I could change not to appeal to opposite sex, but to make myself more fulfilled as a person and see how this comes through. In terms of radiance, I still think it's a case of happy soul = confident soul.
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