1st Feb 2010 at 5:02 pm
I aim to misbehave
I'd like to get some outside opinions on something if I may...
In a nutshell, I fancy the pants off a guy who is one of my best friends. I have done for ages and I decided that it'd be best if I just left it at that because I didn't want to risk our friendship over it. He's a complete flirt and since he knows I'll let him get away with it he acts really flirty towards me. The thing is (and the reason I'll put up with his nonsense) he's given me a lot of confidence and self-belief so he means a lot to me and I couldn't bear it if things turned bad.
Today a friend asked me what was going on between us. I told her more or less what I've put in this post. She said that she was sick of watching the two of us dancing around each other and asked me that if i knew that he felt the same way about me would I risk it? I couldn't bring myself to say anything but I kind of think that my face said it all.
Anyway, I'm just not sure what to think at the minute and I just needed to get it off my chest
1st Feb 2010 at 5:29 pm
Outside-left
1st Feb 2010 at 7:35 pm
1st Feb 2010 at 8:13 pm
Daft Cow?
1st Feb 2010 at 9:05 pm
But then, I suppose I don't really know what's going on with him and I don't want to ask in case it's bad and how do you ask that kind of thing anyway?
5th Feb 2010 at 4:06 pm
Quote: Paula, Feb 2010We talked. He just wants to be friends
Well at least you talked - now you can just get on with being mates without having that in the back of your mind all the time and you'll probably be closer for it in the long run. Well done for doing it anyway - I've had to do stuff like that in the past and it takes real balls
8th Feb 2010 at 12:26 pm
Hope is important.
In a nutshell, I fancy the pants off a guy who is one of my best friends. I have done for ages and I decided that it'd be best if I just left it at that because I didn't want to risk our friendship over it. He's a complete flirt and since he knows I'll let him get away with it he acts really flirty towards me. The thing is (and the reason I'll put up with his nonsense) he's given me a lot of confidence and self-belief so he means a lot to me and I couldn't bear it if things turned bad.
8th Feb 2010 at 4:05 pm
Bing Bong Changes
Oh gosh - I feel like it too. I really like a girl, but she is one of my bestest friends. I do not want to make everything really messy and wrong and muddled. We are both really shy and scaredy. I really want to be with her *all* the time, I think, but also I am really happy she is my friend too. Please does it make sense at-all?
8th Feb 2010 at 4:18 pm
Bing Bong Changes
If you don't ask, you'll never know.
8th Feb 2010 at 4:55 pm
River Phoenix
Quote: Paula, Feb 2010In a nutshell, I fancy the pants off a guy who is one of my best friends. I have done for ages and I decided that it'd be best if I just left it at that because I didn't want to risk our friendship over it. He's a complete flirt and since he knows I'll let him get away with it he acts really flirty towards me. The thing is (and the reason I'll put up with his nonsense) he's given me a lot of confidence and self-belief so he means a lot to me and I couldn't bear it if things turned bad.
Oh gosh - I feel like it too. I really like a girl, but she is one of my bestest friends. I do not want to make everything really messy and wrong and muddled. We are both really shy and scaredy. I really want to be with her *all* the time, I think, but also I am really happy she is my friend too. Please does it make sense at-all?
I am not sure I would be a good boyfriend at-all. I am really weird and scatty and frsutrating, sometimes.
I will be a boy spinster forever, I think, with cats and badgers and my books and angel cake.
8th Feb 2010 at 5:13 pm
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
8th Feb 2010 at 6:10 pm
8th Feb 2010 at 6:12 pm
Bing Bong Changes
f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
8th Feb 2010 at 8:32 pm
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
In the interests of equality, I think you'll find EVERYONE regardless of gender, race or religion is "f*cking retarded".
8th Feb 2010 at 8:38 pm
Outside-left
Quote: Ted 'Smooth' Bundy, Feb 2010Quote: Alec, Feb 2010Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
In the interests of equality, I think you'll find EVERYONE regardless of gender, race or religion is "f*cking retarded".
people in general are a bit sh*t, yeah. but i didn't mean it like that - specifically lately all i've met are blokes who can't hold a conversation, look/smell like they've not bathed in weeks let alone changed clothes, seem genuinely intimidated by me, and have that aura of creepiness about them that would send anybody running.
8th Feb 2010 at 11:07 pm
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
In the interests of equality, I think you'll find EVERYONE regardless of gender, race or religion is "f*cking retarded".
9th Feb 2010 at 12:58 am
Question.
You meet a girl out and about in town, you find her rather hot (Who wouldn't) and have a chat with her, you then see her and chat the week after.
Would it be considered odd to add her on facebook?
I was having this debate before hte whole theft debacle and been told that no, no it wouldn't however, this is me talking...
9th Feb 2010 at 1:18 am
Bing Bong Changes
9th Feb 2010 at 1:22 am
9th Feb 2010 at 1:39 am
Single mutual friend, not sure how long we spoke for, however drinks were offered by both parties. Her name (forname only) was mentioned, since I was confused about its pronunciation.
9th Feb 2010 at 1:45 am
Bing Bong Changes
get a sharpie & a mirror... write whatever you want to know on your left butt cheek, take it to the shop, get it out & ask her to scribble the answers to it all on your right cheek
take a photo of it when you get home & there you go
9th Feb 2010 at 7:31 pm
River Phoenix
How do you get to know the name of someone who works behind the till at HMV? There's a girl working there I've had a couple of conversations with whilst I was buying stuff, and there's always the eye contact and smiles when I see her, but I'm not sure how best to cross the customer/staff boundary.
9th Feb 2010 at 7:33 pm
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010How do you get to know the name of someone who works behind the till at HMV? There's a girl working there I've had a couple of conversations with whilst I was buying stuff, and there's always the eye contact and smiles when I see her, but I'm not sure how best to cross the customer/staff boundary.
Maybe you could say something like: Hi, i'm Alec, look my name up on Urban Dictionary and you'll be amazed.
i thought people in HMV wore name badges, anyroad.
9th Feb 2010 at 7:36 pm
River Phoenix
Quote: Rayanne Graff, Feb 2010Quote: Alec, Feb 2010How do you get to know the name of someone who works behind the till at HMV? There's a girl working there I've had a couple of conversations with whilst I was buying stuff, and there's always the eye contact and smiles when I see her, but I'm not sure how best to cross the customer/staff boundary.
Maybe you could say something like: Hi, i'm Alec, look my name up on Urban Dictionary and you'll be amazed.
i thought people in HMV wore name badges, anyroad.
She wears lots of badges on her uniform, so her name badge is hidden beneath/amongst them all. I can't stare for too long each time trying to find it, or she'll think I'm looking at her lady-bumps.
9th Feb 2010 at 7:37 pm
9th Feb 2010 at 7:41 pm
Bing Bong Changes
...is the till operators name not normally printed on the receipt?
9th Feb 2010 at 7:50 pm
9th Feb 2010 at 11:23 pm
Daft Cow?
Quote: Babestation, Feb 2010Quote: The Underwhelmed One, Feb 2010
But then, I suppose I don't really know what's going on with him and I don't want to ask in case it's bad and how do you ask that kind of thing anyway?
I'd start with a simple, so when does blah blah blah get back from Japan, and go from there. You can follow that up in an infinite number of ways, but if he doesn't give too much away, I'd probably ask him what the secrets are too a successful long distance relationship - so you can pass on some much-needed advice to a friend of yours. If you conclude from a bit of digging he seems happy with her, forget him. If he gives you reason to believe things aren't working out with this girl, take it from there.
She's not coming back, she's going from there straight to India in August and from there who knows.
But he supports her, despite them being in a rubbish relationship which went wrong two years ago when they broke up Christmas 2007, because she only came to england to study because of him.
So he's paying out several thousand pounds so she can do that.
There was a whole heap of other stuff, but basically that's one hell of a situation.
He also said that he knew how he was acting was wrong, but it's been so long since he felt like he was in a proper relationship that he forgets most of the time that he is, and then feels terrible when he realises.
This may be too messy
But he and I have just... clicked.
Gah!
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