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River Phoenix
Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009
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Quote: LoonyPandora, Dec 2009Quote: Valerie Holliday, Dec 2009Also, from a conversation I had with James today, does it make a difference whether you're the dumper or dumpee on how easy you find it to get back into the swing of dating/rebounding?
Took me less time as the dumper to get back into the swing of things. Though it didn't work out well, maybe it only appears to take less time when you are the dumper, when in actual fact you ain't ready for the same length of time.
I think, depressingly, this may be exactly right.
2nd date tomorrow, wish me luck!
Good luck.
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Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
That it appears to take less time if I'm honest.
And thanks, although there's a chance it might not happen now as she's got illness
And thanks, although there's a chance it might not happen now as she's got illness
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Quote: Bob Flapper, Dec 2009
She isn't on lotus notes, she's a relative newbie. You could try and steal her but you'd be competing with me, which, let's be honest, is always going to end in embarassment for you
Nothing else to report on the single life btw, I think being single is actually underrated, all this amazing FREEDOM.
Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009That it appears to take less time if I'm honest.
And thanks, although there's a chance it might not happen now as she's got illness
Sh*t. Probably aids.
Oh and is she on lotus notes? I'll steal her from under your comedy nose, RBS style motherjamma!
Me and Alex are work e-mail buddies. It kind of fills the womanly shaped gap in our lives.
She isn't on lotus notes, she's a relative newbie. You could try and steal her but you'd be competing with me, which, let's be honest, is always going to end in embarassment for you
Nothing else to report on the single life btw, I think being single is actually underrated, all this amazing FREEDOM.
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
I don't know what you look like but if we're both single this time next year, wanna get married?
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Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Lisbeth Salander, Dec 2009
I would, but you have no idea if I'm hot or not. Here's a clue though, it's not the first one.
I've never been in one. I feel somewhat cheated.
I would, but you have no idea if I'm hot or not. Here's a clue though, it's not the first one.
someone offered once, but then changed his mind as he said he was already in one
but he was a d*ckhead anyway so yeah
but he was a d*ckhead anyway so yeah
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Finally got a second date tomorrow. Problem is I've regressed back to old awkward, shy Alex when I'm at work with her now and I think she thinks I'm not arsed when I'm actually very arsed. Time to be nice and confident tomorrow and let her know I categorically like her and there's nothing she can do about it
River Phoenix
Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009
Heck, everyone's shy. Hope tomorrow goes all right, mofo.
Finally got a second date tomorrow. Problem is I've regressed back to old awkward, shy Alex when I'm at work with her now and I think she thinks I'm not arsed when I'm actually very arsed. Time to be nice and confident tomorrow and let her know I categorically like her and there's nothing she can do about it
Heck, everyone's shy. Hope tomorrow goes all right, mofo.
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Quote: Rayanne Graff, Dec 2009
This.
I would definitely consider myself to be quite a shy person, with very little self esteem or confidence. I think, because I was pretty chunky this time last year, I still feel as if nobody could find me attractive. Every little flaw in my appearance has now become magnified and on top of this, I'm painfully aware that I'm 27, don't drive and have very little money. When I'm sat at a bar chatting to women who are nurses, solicitors etc.. and most of them are a few years younger than I am, it really does make you feel like you don't stand a chance.
If you were a fly on the wall during a night out though, you'd never believe my confidence was so low. However, the fact that last night I managed to charm my way through a couple of nurses, some primary school teachers, an interior designer and some other random nice women and left in the end with some waitress who I didn't even fancy, simply because I have low self-esteem and she gave me the most attention. I've pretty much given up on the idea actually meeting someone decent.
Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009Finally got a second date tomorrow. Problem is I've regressed back to old awkward, shy Alex when I'm at work with her now and I think she thinks I'm not arsed when I'm actually very arsed. Time to be nice and confident tomorrow and let her know I categorically like her and there's nothing she can do about it
Heck, everyone's shy. Hope tomorrow goes all right, mofo.
This.
I would definitely consider myself to be quite a shy person, with very little self esteem or confidence. I think, because I was pretty chunky this time last year, I still feel as if nobody could find me attractive. Every little flaw in my appearance has now become magnified and on top of this, I'm painfully aware that I'm 27, don't drive and have very little money. When I'm sat at a bar chatting to women who are nurses, solicitors etc.. and most of them are a few years younger than I am, it really does make you feel like you don't stand a chance.
If you were a fly on the wall during a night out though, you'd never believe my confidence was so low. However, the fact that last night I managed to charm my way through a couple of nurses, some primary school teachers, an interior designer and some other random nice women and left in the end with some waitress who I didn't even fancy, simply because I have low self-esteem and she gave me the most attention. I've pretty much given up on the idea actually meeting someone decent.
Outside-left
Quote: Whoa Buck, Dec 2009
This is why Jewish God invented lying
Quote: Rayanne Graff, Dec 2009Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009Finally got a second date tomorrow. Problem is I've regressed back to old awkward, shy Alex when I'm at work with her now and I think she thinks I'm not arsed when I'm actually very arsed. Time to be nice and confident tomorrow and let her know I categorically like her and there's nothing she can do about it
Heck, everyone's shy. Hope tomorrow goes all right, mofo.
This.
I would definitely consider myself to be quite a shy person, with very little self esteem or confidence. I think, because I was pretty chunky this time last year, I still feel as if nobody could find me attractive. Every little flaw in my appearance has now become magnified and on top of this, I'm painfully aware that I'm 27, don't drive and have very little money. When I'm sat at a bar chatting to women who are nurses, solicitors etc.. and most of them are a few years younger than I am, it really does make you feel like you don't stand a chance.
If you were a fly on the wall during a night out though, you'd never believe my confidence was so low. However, the fact that last night I managed to charm my way through a couple of nurses, some primary school teachers, an interior designer and some other random nice women and left in the end with some waitress who I didn't even fancy, simply because I have low self-esteem and she gave me the most attention. I've pretty much given up on the idea actually meeting someone decent.
This is why Jewish God invented lying
I aim to misbehave
Quote: Snoop, Dec 2009
I played a drug dealer in 3 episodes of Fair City. This nearly always works because nobody gives a f*ck about Fair City
Quote: Howard Hughes, Dec 2009Quote: Whoa Buck, Dec 2009Quote: Rayanne Graff, Dec 2009Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009Finally got a second date tomorrow. Problem is I've regressed back to old awkward, shy Alex when I'm at work with her now and I think she thinks I'm not arsed when I'm actually very arsed. Time to be nice and confident tomorrow and let her know I categorically like her and there's nothing she can do about it
Heck, everyone's shy. Hope tomorrow goes all right, mofo.
This.
I would definitely consider myself to be quite a shy person, with very little self esteem or confidence. I think, because I was pretty chunky this time last year, I still feel as if nobody could find me attractive. Every little flaw in my appearance has now become magnified and on top of this, I'm painfully aware that I'm 27, don't drive and have very little money. When I'm sat at a bar chatting to women who are nurses, solicitors etc.. and most of them are a few years younger than I am, it really does make you feel like you don't stand a chance.
If you were a fly on the wall during a night out though, you'd never believe my confidence was so low. However, the fact that last night I managed to charm my way through a couple of nurses, some primary school teachers, an interior designer and some other random nice women and left in the end with some waitress who I didn't even fancy, simply because I have low self-esteem and she gave me the most attention. I've pretty much given up on the idea actually meeting someone decent.
This is why Jewish God invented lying
For most of the first year students in Manchester I'm Bertie Ahernes nephew and Bono's godson. Idiots
I played a drug dealer in 3 episodes of Fair City. This nearly always works because nobody gives a f*ck about Fair City
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Went quite well today. I laid my cards on the table, told her I liked her and said the things we both sort of knew anyway, but it was good to actually say them so we both knew where we stood. She does like me but doesn't want to get into a girlfriend/boyfriend thing as yet and likes to get to know someone better first before she goes out with them. I'm ok with this to be honest, she wants to go out more and go from there so yeah, that'll happen. Hmm... 
Quote: Abacus, Dec 2009
sounds perfectly reasonable. wouldn't worry about it - it's not a bad sign. she likes you and wants to spend more time with you. you're pretty much already halfway there.
Went quite well today. I laid my cards on the table, told her I liked her and said the things we both sort of knew anyway, but it was good to actually say them so we both knew where we stood. She does like me but doesn't want to get into a girlfriend/boyfriend thing as yet and likes to get to know someone better first before she goes out with them. I'm ok with this to be honest, she wants to go out more and go from there so yeah, that'll happen. Hmm...
sounds perfectly reasonable. wouldn't worry about it - it's not a bad sign. she likes you and wants to spend more time with you. you're pretty much already halfway there.
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Yeah, it's cool, my smiley at the end of the post was ill-chosen. I was just happy to find out for sure she does definitely like me 
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Nah, just anal sex in the toilets at the train station 
No though, I haven't; I saved the "talking" until right at the very end before her train so as if it went tits up I wouldn't have to be around her for 4 hours humiliated. We had a warm lingering embrace when she left but there were people all over the place.
In other news I went out for my ex's birthday last night in an attempt to do the whole staying friends thing and it was pretty grim. My ex herself was fine but her sister and her friends weren't exactly friendly, which I guess I can understand. My ex took me outside for a big talk, but ashamedly I don't remember anything we spoke about but she's ok with me today so I know I didn't do anything stupid or mean or ought.
No though, I haven't; I saved the "talking" until right at the very end before her train so as if it went tits up I wouldn't have to be around her for 4 hours humiliated. We had a warm lingering embrace when she left but there were people all over the place.
In other news I went out for my ex's birthday last night in an attempt to do the whole staying friends thing and it was pretty grim. My ex herself was fine but her sister and her friends weren't exactly friendly, which I guess I can understand. My ex took me outside for a big talk, but ashamedly I don't remember anything we spoke about but she's ok with me today so I know I didn't do anything stupid or mean or ought.
Dismantling a person is sometimes necessary...
Cheers Doc
Found out today from my mate that the girl in question was asking me to go outside with her at the staff party last Thursday before she left and I said no! Hehe, nice work, Alex...
Found out today from my mate that the girl in question was asking me to go outside with her at the staff party last Thursday before she left and I said no! Hehe, nice work, Alex...
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