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This will make no sense and I'll likely delete it tomorrow, but maybe typing it out will help it unravel
I'm starting to think that maybe I'm a bit more messed up by something that happened years ago than I originally thought.
Though I don't think it's the event itself that's bugging me now.
I'm fairly set in the mindset that it happened and that's that.
I think what is bothering me more was how I dealt with it and how the people around me did. Or rather person. As I only told one person.
Because it would have screwed a lot of sh*t up telling anyone else.
But anyway.
Sh*t happens. If you go out & get so wrecked that all judgement goes out the window for both of you, sh*t happens. And by the time you have a second of clarity through the booze haze to realise what is going on, it's already done. And you were too frigging blotto to say no anyway.
And approximately 10 years of awkwardness ensues. I say 10 years. I still feel awkward. But I'm actually comfortable enough around this person again now that I can function properly around them.
… Except for a brief moment while driving home from helping them out, where i took a corner too fast in the dark and almost end up skidding his car off the road and in to a farmers field.
But I digress.
When I told the third party person the next day, their attitude was just like "they're good looking, though"
Glossing over a few points there, really weren't we?
I mean… she had a bit more information than I've put here, had also met this person and knew their background.
Main points are that we're very vaguely related, there's a 14 year age gap,I was p*ssed as a fart. (but so were they so judgement could have been off?
A recent brief mention in conversation leads me to believe this may be the case)
Anyway. I told her because the situation wasn't ideal. I wasn't good with the situation, the situation was incredibly uncomfortable and I felt a bit wronged. Taken advantage of. I felt stupid.
and I also needed someone to hold my hand to go the clinic.
Her reaction sits with me as if it was along the lines of:
"oh it's OK because the person concerned was aesthetically pleasant"
I can't remember right now the exact words she said. Probably more like "what's wrong with you, they're alright" (as in alright looking)
Maybe she had a brain fart and didn't quite grasp the side of the situation where I went out for a few beers with this person, and didn't exactly set out to end up being screwed on my living room floor by them, left wondering if I had consented or not (I don't think I would have, but being p*ssed as a fart I would have just likely gone along with the whole thing because I'm dumb like that. But either way, it had happened and couldn't be changed, my own fault, lesson learned)
but it bothers me. If she did grasp the situation and that I was uncomfortable with it all, why would she say that being attractive makes it ok?
It doesn't. It wasn't right.
But eh. like I said, sh*t happens.
Hmm. I'm not sure I really had a point here.
Oh well
I'm starting to think that maybe I'm a bit more messed up by something that happened years ago than I originally thought.
Though I don't think it's the event itself that's bugging me now.
I'm fairly set in the mindset that it happened and that's that.
I think what is bothering me more was how I dealt with it and how the people around me did. Or rather person. As I only told one person.
Because it would have screwed a lot of sh*t up telling anyone else.
But anyway.
Sh*t happens. If you go out & get so wrecked that all judgement goes out the window for both of you, sh*t happens. And by the time you have a second of clarity through the booze haze to realise what is going on, it's already done. And you were too frigging blotto to say no anyway.
And approximately 10 years of awkwardness ensues. I say 10 years. I still feel awkward. But I'm actually comfortable enough around this person again now that I can function properly around them.
… Except for a brief moment while driving home from helping them out, where i took a corner too fast in the dark and almost end up skidding his car off the road and in to a farmers field.
But I digress.
When I told the third party person the next day, their attitude was just like "they're good looking, though"
Glossing over a few points there, really weren't we?
I mean… she had a bit more information than I've put here, had also met this person and knew their background.
Main points are that we're very vaguely related, there's a 14 year age gap,I was p*ssed as a fart. (but so were they so judgement could have been off?
A recent brief mention in conversation leads me to believe this may be the case)
Anyway. I told her because the situation wasn't ideal. I wasn't good with the situation, the situation was incredibly uncomfortable and I felt a bit wronged. Taken advantage of. I felt stupid.
and I also needed someone to hold my hand to go the clinic.
Her reaction sits with me as if it was along the lines of:
"oh it's OK because the person concerned was aesthetically pleasant"
I can't remember right now the exact words she said. Probably more like "what's wrong with you, they're alright" (as in alright looking)
Maybe she had a brain fart and didn't quite grasp the side of the situation where I went out for a few beers with this person, and didn't exactly set out to end up being screwed on my living room floor by them, left wondering if I had consented or not (I don't think I would have, but being p*ssed as a fart I would have just likely gone along with the whole thing because I'm dumb like that. But either way, it had happened and couldn't be changed, my own fault, lesson learned)
but it bothers me. If she did grasp the situation and that I was uncomfortable with it all, why would she say that being attractive makes it ok?
It doesn't. It wasn't right.
But eh. like I said, sh*t happens.
Hmm. I'm not sure I really had a point here.
Oh well
Quote: Vel, Mar 2020
she told someone else i know that she suspected as much too.
and I'm there when they told me thinking like, yeeeah... probably putting it about...
obviously I said nothing.
what could I say without a million questions following?
Quote: Πανδώρα, Mar 2020Also, this person was seeing someone at the time.
That really bothers me.
What a knobhead.
And what a knobhead I am.
Yep.
Been there, done that. *Facepalm*
she told someone else i know that she suspected as much too.
and I'm there when they told me thinking like, yeeeah... probably putting it about...
obviously I said nothing.
what could I say without a million questions following?
"we're all self isolating at the minute, why not come over at the weekend?"
... Because that's not how isolating works for a start?
Yeah, nah, I'd love to get out of the house right now, but mate, no.
Ken you're healthy, ken I'm healthy... Ish.
but we're restricted from socialising for a reason.
Hit me up when this is all sorted and I'll drink you under the table then, but just not now.
... Because that's not how isolating works for a start?
Yeah, nah, I'd love to get out of the house right now, but mate, no.
Ken you're healthy, ken I'm healthy... Ish.
but we're restricted from socialising for a reason.
Hit me up when this is all sorted and I'll drink you under the table then, but just not now.
Yyyyup. Dumbasses. Dumbasses everywhere.
Like the ones who were told to self isolate for two weeks after visiting a covid positive patient, decided they only needed to do 7 days because they were on their own, but was then back with their famalam on the 6th day, despite saying that "I'll do nine days cos they say that if you're not showing by day nine you're fine" which where the f*ck they've heard that I have no idea but you've completely ignored the advice you were given anyway so kindly just do one.
God knows how other people who have bigger social circles than me feel, we don't have a huge family and I have fewer friends, but the level of bullsh*t I have seen by just some of this limited amount of people has been astounding.
Like the ones who were told to self isolate for two weeks after visiting a covid positive patient, decided they only needed to do 7 days because they were on their own, but was then back with their famalam on the 6th day, despite saying that "I'll do nine days cos they say that if you're not showing by day nine you're fine" which where the f*ck they've heard that I have no idea but you've completely ignored the advice you were given anyway so kindly just do one.
God knows how other people who have bigger social circles than me feel, we don't have a huge family and I have fewer friends, but the level of bullsh*t I have seen by just some of this limited amount of people has been astounding.
Had to go pick up my pal, her dogs and her sister in law up today as an insurance company f*ck up has seen her partners insurance lapse in March and the car has been seized by the police and she's facing six points on her license which is fab when she has a driving heavy job
So yay for mixing houses and woohoo for online only insurance companies where the only thing you can do over the phone is claim or buy a policy.
So yay for mixing houses and woohoo for online only insurance companies where the only thing you can do over the phone is claim or buy a policy.
Mine have holes. I swear my sister plans it so she comes here in a knackered pair just so she can swap into a good pair. 
God knows what she does to them to ruin so many.
Also, I'm not as good at words, but Alice is excellent
God knows what she does to them to ruin so many.
Also, I'm not as good at words, but Alice is excellent
why couldn't i have just stayed emotionally and sensually numb?
didnt need this as well as everything else.
didnt need this as well as everything else.
I'm just an idiot, cause its always ones I could never have anyway
Bah.
They don't know what they're missing.
(probably a good thing in my case, I'm a f*cking nightmare
)
Anyway, my snake is a d*ckhead and so is my dog.
When I got a puppy I stupidly assumed that, like jake, other folk would bother to work with him and it wouldn't all be down to me and I wouldn't have a clingy knobhead wrapped round my feet constantly and darting over roads from people to get back to me.
So yeah. That was a f*ck up.
Bah.
They don't know what they're missing.
(probably a good thing in my case, I'm a f*cking nightmare
)Anyway, my snake is a d*ckhead and so is my dog.
When I got a puppy I stupidly assumed that, like jake, other folk would bother to work with him and it wouldn't all be down to me and I wouldn't have a clingy knobhead wrapped round my feet constantly and darting over roads from people to get back to me.
So yeah. That was a f*ck up.
I aim to misbehave
Quote: Πανδώρα, May 2020
Quote: Vel, May 2020
Dating is horrible. Starting things are horrible. Everything is horrible. Yet everyone else seems to not think it's horrible. Everyone else seems to manage.
I hate everyone.
Happy f*cking Tuesday.
why couldn't i have just stayed emotionally and sensually numb?
didnt need this as well as everything else.
Quote: Vel, May 2020
I feel you.
I do.
They make you fall for them then f*ck off. Men. Tsch.
Dating is horrible. Starting things are horrible. Everything is horrible. Yet everyone else seems to not think it's horrible. Everyone else seems to manage.
I hate everyone.
Happy f*cking Tuesday.
I had typed a rant about the occupant of the house I cleaned today's lack of distancing but what I'm gonna complain about now instead is my f*cking phone and the stupid f*cking sh*tty dark mode thing it now decides to switch to at 15% battery which reloaded the f*ckin page and lost my b*st*rd ramblings
I'm just gonna stop coming here and trying to post when my battery is anywhere below 20% because I've just lost another post with the damn thing reloading the page.
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