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Hockey legend Wayne Gretsky once said, you will always miss 100 percent of the shots you never take. Sounds to me like there's chemistry there, but neither of you have that confidence to make the first move!
Ask him out for coffee/drinks/food. It doesn't have to be a 'date', just two friends enjoying each other's company in a more relaxing environment. See how it goes from there.
But I would just ask him. Some guys need a lot of hints and if he's a proper friend, it won't effect your relationship whatever the outcome. Not only that, but I'm with Dan. Only a d*ckhead would not be interested in dating an attractive and intelligent woman. Turn your brain off and ask him. Go! Do it! Full steam ahead! Etc..
Ask him out for coffee/drinks/food. It doesn't have to be a 'date', just two friends enjoying each other's company in a more relaxing environment. See how it goes from there.
But I would just ask him. Some guys need a lot of hints and if he's a proper friend, it won't effect your relationship whatever the outcome. Not only that, but I'm with Dan. Only a d*ckhead would not be interested in dating an attractive and intelligent woman. Turn your brain off and ask him. Go! Do it! Full steam ahead! Etc..
Quote: The Underwhelmed One, Feb 2010
I'd start with a simple, so when does blah blah blah get back from Japan, and go from there. You can follow that up in an infinite number of ways, but if he doesn't give too much away, I'd probably ask him what the secrets are too a successful long distance relationship - so you can pass on some much-needed advice to a friend of yours. If you conclude from a bit of digging he seems happy with her, forget him. If he gives you reason to believe things aren't working out with this girl, take it from there.
But then, I suppose I don't really know what's going on with him and I don't want to ask in case it's badand how do you ask that kind of thing anyway?
I'd start with a simple, so when does blah blah blah get back from Japan, and go from there. You can follow that up in an infinite number of ways, but if he doesn't give too much away, I'd probably ask him what the secrets are too a successful long distance relationship - so you can pass on some much-needed advice to a friend of yours. If you conclude from a bit of digging he seems happy with her, forget him. If he gives you reason to believe things aren't working out with this girl, take it from there.
Quote: the doc, Feb 2010
Stu speaks the truth! Doing that took some real guts. Sure, it may not have gone your way this time, but it's a big step in the right direction and you should feel proud of yourself! And the next time you find yourself wanting to ask out some guy, you'll know that's it's easier than it first appears and you've got what it takes to grit your teeth and go in for the kill! What you don't do from here is let this guy's decision knock your confidence, or add to those silly and groundless self esteem issues you seem to have. Take it as a step forward and remember, if you're ever down in Leicester, you can always look-up Joel.
Quote: Paula, Feb 2010We talked. He just wants to be friends
Well at least you talked - now you can just get on with being mates without having that in the back of your mind all the time and you'll probably be closer for it in the long run. Well done for doing it anyway - I've had to do stuff like that in the past and it takes real balls
Stu speaks the truth! Doing that took some real guts. Sure, it may not have gone your way this time, but it's a big step in the right direction and you should feel proud of yourself! And the next time you find yourself wanting to ask out some guy, you'll know that's it's easier than it first appears and you've got what it takes to grit your teeth and go in for the kill! What you don't do from here is let this guy's decision knock your confidence, or add to those silly and groundless self esteem issues you seem to have. Take it as a step forward and remember, if you're ever down in Leicester, you can always look-up Joel.
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Hope is important.
Quote: Paula, Feb 2010
Oh gosh - I feel like it too. I really like a girl, but she is one of my bestest friends. I do not want to make everything really messy and wrong and muddled. We are both really shy and scaredy. I really want to be with her *all* the time, I think, but also I am really happy she is my friend too. Please does it make sense at-all?
I am not sure I would be a good boyfriend at-all. I am really weird and scatty and frsutrating, sometimes.
I will be a boy spinster forever, I think, with cats and badgers and my books and angel cake.
In a nutshell, I fancy the pants off a guy who is one of my best friends. I have done for ages and I decided that it'd be best if I just left it at that because I didn't want to risk our friendship over it. He's a complete flirt and since he knows I'll let him get away with it he acts really flirty towards me. The thing is (and the reason I'll put up with his nonsense) he's given me a lot of confidence and self-belief so he means a lot to me and I couldn't bear it if things turned bad.
Oh gosh - I feel like it too. I really like a girl, but she is one of my bestest friends. I do not want to make everything really messy and wrong and muddled. We are both really shy and scaredy. I really want to be with her *all* the time, I think, but also I am really happy she is my friend too. Please does it make sense at-all?
I am not sure I would be a good boyfriend at-all. I am really weird and scatty and frsutrating, sometimes.
I will be a boy spinster forever, I think, with cats and badgers and my books and angel cake.
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Feb 2010
Same situation here with one of my friends. Unfortunately, there seems to be an non-definable line where eventually you're friends for so long, a relationship becomes out of the question. Not least because you now know too much about each other.
That doesn't mean nothing will happen, but expect a higher amount of rejection in trying to start a relationship with a friend, than with someone who's less well-known. Which completely sucks.
Oh gosh - I feel like it too. I really like a girl, but she is one of my bestest friends. I do not want to make everything really messy and wrong and muddled. We are both really shy and scaredy. I really want to be with her *all* the time, I think, but also I am really happy she is my friend too. Please does it make sense at-all?
Same situation here with one of my friends. Unfortunately, there seems to be an non-definable line where eventually you're friends for so long, a relationship becomes out of the question. Not least because you now know too much about each other.
That doesn't mean nothing will happen, but expect a higher amount of rejection in trying to start a relationship with a friend, than with someone who's less well-known. Which completely sucks.
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Ted 'Smooth' Bundy, Feb 2010
That too. Though I don't ask because she keeps going on about the guys she does like, which sort of abolishes any idea of her liking me. At least in my mind.
If you don't ask, you'll never know.
That too. Though I don't ask because she keeps going on about the guys she does like, which sort of abolishes any idea of her liking me. At least in my mind.
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River Phoenix
Quote: Eyes Wide Terrified., Feb 2010
Heck, you make sense most of the time. And everyone's weird, scatty and frustrating.
Quote: Paula, Feb 2010In a nutshell, I fancy the pants off a guy who is one of my best friends. I have done for ages and I decided that it'd be best if I just left it at that because I didn't want to risk our friendship over it. He's a complete flirt and since he knows I'll let him get away with it he acts really flirty towards me. The thing is (and the reason I'll put up with his nonsense) he's given me a lot of confidence and self-belief so he means a lot to me and I couldn't bear it if things turned bad.
Oh gosh - I feel like it too. I really like a girl, but she is one of my bestest friends. I do not want to make everything really messy and wrong and muddled. We are both really shy and scaredy. I really want to be with her *all* the time, I think, but also I am really happy she is my friend too. Please does it make sense at-all?
I am not sure I would be a good boyfriend at-all. I am really weird and scatty and frsutrating, sometimes.
I will be a boy spinster forever, I think, with cats and badgers and my books and angel cake.
Heck, you make sense most of the time. And everyone's weird, scatty and frustrating.
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Bing Bong Changes
Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
Quote: Ted 'Smooth' Bundy, Feb 2010
people in general are a bit sh*t, yeah. but i didn't mean it like that - specifically lately all i've met are blokes who can't hold a conversation, look/smell like they've not bathed in weeks let alone changed clothes, seem genuinely intimidated by me, and have that aura of creepiness about them that would send anybody running.
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
In the interests of equality, I think you'll find EVERYONE regardless of gender, race or religion is "f*cking retarded".
people in general are a bit sh*t, yeah. but i didn't mean it like that - specifically lately all i've met are blokes who can't hold a conversation, look/smell like they've not bathed in weeks let alone changed clothes, seem genuinely intimidated by me, and have that aura of creepiness about them that would send anybody running.
Outside-left
Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010
I'd bum ya.
Quote: Ted 'Smooth' Bundy, Feb 2010Quote: Alec, Feb 2010Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
In the interests of equality, I think you'll find EVERYONE regardless of gender, race or religion is "f*cking retarded".
people in general are a bit sh*t, yeah. but i didn't mean it like that - specifically lately all i've met are blokes who can't hold a conversation, look/smell like they've not bathed in weeks let alone changed clothes, seem genuinely intimidated by me, and have that aura of creepiness about them that would send anybody running.
I'd bum ya.
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Ted 'Smooth' Bundy, Feb 2010
Yeah, I was just directing my response to the fact she said 'men' and not 'anything with human DNA'
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010Quote: pedobear, Feb 2010f*ck it, i want a new boy. new being key. swear to god everyone i meet is f*cking retarded.
I think men in general just are a bit retarded. You just have to find a certain retardation you find amusing and cute, rather than annoying.
In the interests of equality, I think you'll find EVERYONE regardless of gender, race or religion is "f*cking retarded".
Yeah, I was just directing my response to the fact she said 'men' and not 'anything with human DNA'
get a sharpie & a mirror... write whatever you want to know on your left butt cheek, take it to the shop, get it out & ask her to scribble the answers to it all on your right cheek
take a photo of it when you get home & there you go
take a photo of it when you get home & there you go
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Eddie Wachowski, Feb 2010
I think I need a way that doesn't controvene public decency laws.
get a sharpie & a mirror... write whatever you want to know on your left butt cheek, take it to the shop, get it out & ask her to scribble the answers to it all on your right cheek
take a photo of it when you get home & there you go
I think I need a way that doesn't controvene public decency laws.
Bing Bong Changes
Quote: Rayanne Graff, Feb 2010
She wears lots of badges on her uniform, so her name badge is hidden beneath/amongst them all. I can't stare for too long each time trying to find it, or she'll think I'm looking at her lady-bumps.
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010How do you get to know the name of someone who works behind the till at HMV? There's a girl working there I've had a couple of conversations with whilst I was buying stuff, and there's always the eye contact and smiles when I see her, but I'm not sure how best to cross the customer/staff boundary.
Maybe you could say something like: Hi, i'm Alec, look my name up on Urban Dictionary and you'll be amazed.
i thought people in HMV wore name badges, anyroad.
She wears lots of badges on her uniform, so her name badge is hidden beneath/amongst them all. I can't stare for too long each time trying to find it, or she'll think I'm looking at her lady-bumps.
River Phoenix
Quote: Alec, Feb 2010
Oh right, that's too bad.
Quote: Rayanne Graff, Feb 2010Quote: Alec, Feb 2010How do you get to know the name of someone who works behind the till at HMV? There's a girl working there I've had a couple of conversations with whilst I was buying stuff, and there's always the eye contact and smiles when I see her, but I'm not sure how best to cross the customer/staff boundary.
Maybe you could say something like: Hi, i'm Alec, look my name up on Urban Dictionary and you'll be amazed.
i thought people in HMV wore name badges, anyroad.
She wears lots of badges on her uniform, so her name badge is hidden beneath/amongst them all. I can't stare for too long each time trying to find it, or she'll think I'm looking at her lady-bumps.
Oh right, that's too bad.
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Quote: Eddie Wachowski, Feb 2010
Just checked the receipt from yesterday, and it's just got a Merchant ID Number, not a name. Also, going up and saying "Hi Jane/Lucy/Andrea etc." might creep her out a bit.
...is the till operators name not normally printed on the receipt?
Just checked the receipt from yesterday, and it's just got a Merchant ID Number, not a name. Also, going up and saying "Hi Jane/Lucy/Andrea etc." might creep her out a bit.
pffft, you could have had a whole moment when she gave you the ticket, you could have said "thanks... *reads ticket...* Jeremy" with a little wink & everything
Daft Cow?
Quote: The Underwhelmed One, Feb 2010
You and your man choices... Couldn't make that sh*t up.
Quote: Babestation, Feb 2010Quote: The Underwhelmed One, Feb 2010
But then, I suppose I don't really know what's going on with him and I don't want to ask in case it's bad
I'd start with a simple, so when does blah blah blah get back from Japan, and go from there. You can follow that up in an infinite number of ways, but if he doesn't give too much away, I'd probably ask him what the secrets are too a successful long distance relationship - so you can pass on some much-needed advice to a friend of yours. If you conclude from a bit of digging he seems happy with her, forget him. If he gives you reason to believe things aren't working out with this girl, take it from there.
She's not coming back, she's going from there straight to India in August and from there who knows.
But he supports her, despite them being in a rubbish relationship which went wrong two years ago when they broke up Christmas 2007, because she only came to england to study because of him.
So he's paying out several thousand pounds so she can do that.
There was a whole heap of other stuff, but basically that's one hell of a situation.
He also said that he knew how he was acting was wrong, but it's been so long since he felt like he was in a proper relationship that he forgets most of the time that he is, and then feels terrible when he realises.
This may be too messy
But he and I have just... clicked.
Gah!
You and your man choices... Couldn't make that sh*t up.
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